In case you didn’t know, there’s a global pandemic going on. Thanks to COVID-19, life looks a little different right now with businesses closed and toilet paper nowhere to be found. There is an element of uncertainty in the air right now, and that holds true for anyone planning a wedding in 2020. Our Couple of the Year Brianna and Nick are doing their best to remain positive through it all while being proactive (hello back update) and focusing on what matters. A wedding day isn’t about a party or a big guest list, it’s about your love. When you focus on love, everything else fades.
Everyone tells you wedding planning is fun, yet stressful at times, and that is totally true. But wedding planning during a global pandemic? Nobody could prepare you for that. On one hand, Nick and I are spending more time together than ever before and for that I feel grateful. I’m grateful we are both able to work from home during this crisis. I’m grateful to sneak in-jokes and kisses with my favorite person throughout our workdays. I would go so far as to say I would be completely content spending 24/7 with Nick for the rest of my life (but by no means does that mean I am undermining the severity of the situation). There is a serious health crisis affecting the world and while it may seem selfish to be worried about your wedding, it’s hard not to feel heartbroken for the experience you had planned for.
It’s strange to feel both happy and sad at the exact same time. I’m happy because I am truly so excited to marry Nick. He is the best partner, friend, and support I could ever ask for. I know he’s going to be an amazing husband and I can’t wait to be his wife. I would marry him no matter how the day looked but I hope it doesn’t have to come to that. It makes me sad to think our wedding as we envisioned might not happen. Despite everything that is going on, I still want to have the wedding I’ve always dreamed of: a sentimental church ceremony where we exchange rings in front of our friends and family for the first time followed by an extravagant and fun reception at a venue I consider to be the most breathtaking place I could ever imagine. But the most important part of that dream has always been the groom. The composition of the day itself is the icing on the metaphorical wedding cake. I have a beautiful reminder on my left ring finger of the promise Nick and I have made to be together forever. That promise is the reason a wedding day even exists and shouldn’t be forgotten in the midst of the current uncertainty.
Weddings are starting to look different. Ceremonies are going virtual so all guests can join in on the experience from the safety of their homes. Grand plans are being pared down to micro-ceremonies with only family. Some couples are following up their micro-ceremony with a full reception next year. Some couples are waiting patiently for their new 2021 date, which could unexpectedly have become a Monday, Friday, or Sunday and possibly a different month than their original date. From brides I’ve followed or talked to who have adjusted their plans and are now married, not one single person has had a regret about their “different” wedding day because they married the love of their life!
We don’t quite know if or how our plans will change yet. My bridal shower was supposed to be May 16th but that was postponed to August. Due to the stress of the uncertainty, we put a deposit down for our same date in 2021 so that we have time to monitor the situation while not losing out on our chance at a 2021 wedding date. Every single one of our vendors has been amazing to work with as we figure out what to do. Nick, along with our family, has been so supportive and understanding. When I felt too defeated to even begin discussing backup plans, my mom stepped in for me and I will forever be thankful.
I’m not giving up hope on my dream day, it just might have to be in a different year and a different day of the week, but no matter what I have my dream groom